I just heard the radio ad again (for the hundreth time) that promotes a “program” called Total Transformation.
It is touted by the woman who has developed this NEW program for dealing with a son who tells her he hates her.
She tells of the hatred expressed by her son…. and—- oh, dear…she had to think up a program to deal with such talk and such hatred and such a “poor word choice”. (Nyuk Nyuk)
Her name is Janet Lehman and she is a “doctor” who claims to be some sort of therapist..maybe a behavioral modification therapist.
I have some insight into such a “program” which, no doubt, will ultimately cost an interested person who wants to get it— some significant bucks. She says it is free but do you believe that? I don’t.
Here is my view: (some of you can stop reading now)
TOTAL TRANSFORMATION begins when a baby is very young..probably before he/she reaches age 1.
The Mom and Dad of this NON-total transformation child are the instructors and they excercise TOTAL consistency. They teach their baby that the baby is NOT IN CHARGE of the parents in ways that a baby can understand…no brutal spanking or such things…just gentle consistent teaching of respect, obedience, and other positive characteristics that they want their child to learn and display throughout its life.
I did this “program” with my 3 sons and so did my husband. They were TOTALLY TRANSFORMED by the time they were ready to start school.
Home-schooled TOTAL TRANSFORMATION children have a lot of signs of being TOTALLY TRANSFORMED.
<< They learn to control their temper and other emotions that cause a lot of havoc in home. (example: a 2 year old puts on a full blown temper tantrum when he was taken home from a play place where he had spent at least 2 hours with his little rider jeep. His face was as red as his little snowsuit when his Dad carried him, kicking and screaming into his home. He was deposited (gently) on the kitchen floor where he continued to scream and pound the floor with his little fists and feet. The parents quietly went into a bedroom whre another son (infant) was asleep---- and shut the door and sat down on a bed. The screaming continued for another two minutes until the 2 year old noticed that nobody was around to watch him have his tantrum. He stopped screaming and got up and came looking for his parents. Parents came out of the room and helped him get his snowsuit off. It was the end of that tantrum and there never was another one.